Let’s Be Honest – Grouchy Mom

I’ve been chewing on this quote from Kevin DeYoung’s book, Crazy Busy, for over a month now. “We go day after day, crazy month after crazy month: worried, upset, anxious, troubled, fussing, worked up. Every stain, every school project, every dirty sink, every surprise guest, every surge of responsibility becomes a cause of great panic. To paraphrase Titus 3:3, we live as slaves to various passions and pleasures, passing our days in chaos and envy, hassled by others and hassling one another.” I am so guilty of this type of busyness. Every time E spills something, every time I have
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Let’s Be Honest – False Necessities

Every day, I feel as though I need a cup of coffee to survive. If I don’t have my cup of coffee, I have a pretty killer headache around lunchtime. I also pretty much compulsively check my Instagram feed daily. Sometimes, three times a day, but sometimes only once. I get really absorbed in reading a book, and I love either a dessert or a glass of wine after dinner (lately it’s been the glass of wine or some cheese). But these things won’t literally sustain me. They may make my day better, and I may rely on them for
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Let’s Be Honest – Hoarding

The other day I was singing the lyrics, “I don’t know what they want from me, it’s like the mo money we come across, the mo problems we see.” The boy E was confused. He, of course, had never heard of the Notorious B.I.G., nor had he heard the song, so he wanted to know what I was singing and why more money led to more problems. It was pretty unfathomable to him. I tried to explain how the more money and things we have leads to more responsibilities and things we have to tend to. Conveniently, I’d been reading
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Crazy Busy – Book Review

I just finished Kevin DeYoung‘s book, Crazy Busy. It’s pretty short, so even those of you who don’t enjoy reading can make it through this 118 page book. Chapter One doesn’t even start until page 11, so you technically get a few thrown in for free. The subtitle of the book is, “A (mercifully) short book about a (really) big problem.” With homeschooling a 9-year-old, an almost 4-month-old, a (rented) house, 11th-grade writing students, and a few pets on my plate, I’ve got more than enough to keep me busy. Let’s also not forget my friends, marriage, and relationship with God.
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Let’s Be Honest – My House is a Circus

Most of the time, my house is a circus starring a cat, a dog, a 4-month old, a 9-year-old, a husband who works 1.5 jobs, and my own bag of tricks. I’m too busy. Even as I sit to write this post (and plan on posting it later next week), I’m watching Martin play, eating leftovers from last night and keeping an eye on E as he works through a math speed drill. This is about as peaceful as my day gets. I have laundry going, and I’m racking my brain about what to make for dinner, what to buy
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10 Years Ago

After reading, “What Alice Forgot” by Liane Moriarty, I’m left considering how people change and what 10 years can do to how we act. It’s frightening to think that in 10 years my values and daily habits could have changed so much as to seem like a completely different person, maybe even a person I wouldn’t enjoy being around or having as a friend. Would you want to be your own friend? Would you trust yourself with all your secrets and emotions? I’m not sure if I’d want to be my own friend, but I’m thankful for all of the
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There’s no good way to say Pusey

I’ve been doing a study on Melissa Kruger’s book The Envy of Eve (I’ve mentioned it before), and I recently came across some words by E.B. Pusey (1800-1882). Yes, there is no good way to say his last name. I’ve racked my brain for all sorts of different pronunciations, but my hope is that it was pronounced with a French accent for his sake. No matter how you say his last name, he had this challenging list of rules for growing contentment. You’ve got to get beyond the thou’s and the thyself’s, but the list is incredible and tells a
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I am a queen.

Yes, I have my own kingdom. You’re surprised because I seem least likely to don a tiara and prance around in a sparkling gown. But it’s true. Daily, most of the things I decide to do and hope for further the kingdom of Melissa. Everything is just fine in the Kingdom of Melissa until the Kingdom of Tyler or the Kingdom of Ethan throws a wrench into my plans. Then my frustration builds, and we end up with an all-out war between the kingdoms. Whichever kingdom has more power or logic typically wins. And the other kingdoms are left frustrated
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Let’s Be Honest – What does it mean to be ourselves?

Image Link Dear Individualism, Let me start off by saying I really loved you and clung to you for a long time. You changed me into who I thought I was. I thought of you moment by moment, cherished each mention of my name on your lips, and compared my every belonging, measuring it up to my reflection in your mirror. But, You are the robber of the average American’s heart. You trick us all into believing we can achieve our self-worth by holding fast to you and your promise. You fool us into thinking we choose individual, specific, customizable
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All Things New

Happy 2013! I was watching some of the old videos Tyler made the other day, when I came across a wedding video he did for some friends last year. I usually don’t tear up at weddings. I’m not one to cry, but for some reason I always get a little misty when I watch this video. I think it’s because of something the pastor says in the midst of the wedding ceremony (about the time they kiss in the video). In one moment he says, “That’s why your hopes and dreams can become a reality, because Jesus said I make
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