Dear Self,

Dear Self, You are a foolish woman. You care more about comfort, self-esteem, and having control than about loving others until you give yourself away, giving up your preferences for others’ sake, and making yourself less so He can be made more. You allow your emotions to guide you. Never mind the fact they change so rapidly you question them yourself and most surely deny their wavering tendencies to others. You are rash with comments and judgments. Whenever you think you don’t have a problem with pride, you most certainly have a problem with pride. You must remember, “We may think we
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Whining over the Little Things

I’m often surprised at how much E whines over the little things. But when it comes to big boo-boos or life issues, he’s amazingly silent. Those are the times when I really want him to tell me he’s in pain or upset. I wish I could flip a switch for him to complain about those things and not the broccoli, the smaller piece of cake, the unfairness of life. For instance, he recently visited a friend. After I picked him up from his play date, we ran three of four errands and then went home. About thirty minutes later, he came
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I am so stupid.

Really. I am so stupid. For that matter, I can say I am really stupid, which is probably more accurate. I’ve been reading through the Proverbs (there are so many of them). I tackle a few a day. But the other day I came across Proverbs 12:1 – “He who hates reproof is stupid.” Immediately I sucked in through my teeth, making that annoying whistling-sucking sound. I hate reproof. I hate being told I’m just a hint of wrong. The last year and a half of marriage has certainly shown me this, among other bits of sin and darkness I
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Let’s Be Honest – Hard Situations & Pity/Pride

The last nine years of my life haven’t been easy, by any stretch of the imagination. Three months after I graduated from high school, I had E. The day I had E, I started classes at a local college. Four years after I had E, I graduated from Francis Marion University. Then, after a stint as a butcher shop worker, I moved E out of our comfort zone. We moved 3.5 hours away from my parents and lived on our own in a tiny little place in Clemson, South Carolina. Two years later, I graduated from graduate school with a
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Let’s Be Honest – Social Media…Envy and Greed?

Photo by Tyler LaCross Lately I find myself wanting more and more. I’m always thinking of what I need to buy in order to make our house more cozy, what I need to organize and clean (this is not always bad), and what I need to wear or match together to keep my style in line with what I prefer. I don’t think I’ve always been this way or really believed these things matter. I think the root of all these things is 1. Believing I need or deserve more than I have; and 2. Surrounding myself with and being gullible to
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Let’s Be Honest – Wise Friends and Fake Friends

Most people believe they are wise. They trust their hearts will tell them the right answer and keep friends around who will confirm everything they say. But wisdom is not listening to the heart or the soothing words of friends telling you exactly what you want to hear. And truly, most people are not wise. As well as contemplating wisdom, I’ve also been thinking through the true meaning of friendship. Think about it. How often do our friends challenge something we’re going to do? How often do they tell us it’s unreasonable, unwise, or immature? For the most part, people
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Music. Friends. Lost Kitties.

LuLu Oh, hi. We had dinner guests last night. I spent most of the day prepping the house, getting groceries, and looking for the kitty. LuLu had been missing for the past few days, though we haven’t been worried because she typically disappears and then reappears, looking as if someone has taken her in for the night. She’s a sly one. Today was supposed to be dedicated to reading/writing/grading/prepping for teaching next week. But instead Tyler and I found a kitty on the Animal Shelter’s “Lost Pets” site that looked like LuLu. So we spent his lunch time (on into
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