Respect Your Children – the fine line between passive parenting and giving grace

Whoa, whoa, whoa. Doesn’t the Bible say for children to obey and respect their parents? Yes, yes it does. Ephesians 6 to be exact. But Ephesians 6 also says, “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord” (ESV). For the longest time I had no clue what this meant, and while I’m sure I don’t completely understand it now, I do feel it makes more sense. When he was younger, E was an easy child. He never threw a temper tantrum, didn’t say ‘No’ to everything as a two-year-old,
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Let’s Be Honest – Grouchy Mom

I’ve been chewing on this quote from Kevin DeYoung’s book, Crazy Busy, for over a month now. “We go day after day, crazy month after crazy month: worried, upset, anxious, troubled, fussing, worked up. Every stain, every school project, every dirty sink, every surprise guest, every surge of responsibility becomes a cause of great panic. To paraphrase Titus 3:3, we live as slaves to various passions and pleasures, passing our days in chaos and envy, hassled by others and hassling one another.” I am so guilty of this type of busyness. Every time E spills something, every time I have
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Let’s Be Honest – False Necessities

Every day, I feel as though I need a cup of coffee to survive. If I don’t have my cup of coffee, I have a pretty killer headache around lunchtime. I also pretty much compulsively check my Instagram feed daily. Sometimes, three times a day, but sometimes only once. I get really absorbed in reading a book, and I love either a dessert or a glass of wine after dinner (lately it’s been the glass of wine or some cheese). But these things won’t literally sustain me. They may make my day better, and I may rely on them for
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We Quit Sugar – Week 1

One week. We’ve only made it through one week of quitting sugar. Surprisingly, it hasn’t been as hard as I imagined. Because we don’t have any sugar products in our house (part of me prepping was to preemptively give away or trash any treats), I haven’t really been tempted to eat something sugary. I wanted sugar. Half of the week, I’d have that urge, right after finishing dinner or lunch, to eat something a little sweet, even something tiny. I knew I was full, yet part of me just didn’t feel satisfied, as though something was missing. Tyler had a
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Our Kitchen Table

We’ve almost made it through our first week cutting out sugar, fructose, and added/artificial sweeteners. I snapped a few pictures of some of the new recipes we tried and enjoyed. Ethan even liked the Carrot Soup. 1. Egg and Avocado Spread on Toast – A few times this week we had sugar-free bread (try whole wheat bread from Trader Joe’s or Ezekiel 4:9 Bread), goat cheese and avocado mash, with an egg on top. 2. Coconutty Granola and Plain Yogurt – I used Sarah Wilson’s I Quit Sugar Coco-Nutty Granola with plain yogurt. 3. Almond Butter Yogurt with Blackberries – You can either
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Let’s Be Honest – Hoarding

The other day I was singing the lyrics, “I don’t know what they want from me, it’s like the mo money we come across, the mo problems we see.” The boy E was confused. He, of course, had never heard of the Notorious B.I.G., nor had he heard the song, so he wanted to know what I was singing and why more money led to more problems. It was pretty unfathomable to him. I tried to explain how the more money and things we have leads to more responsibilities and things we have to tend to. Conveniently, I’d been reading
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Let’s Be Honest – My House is a Circus

Most of the time, my house is a circus starring a cat, a dog, a 4-month old, a 9-year-old, a husband who works 1.5 jobs, and my own bag of tricks. I’m too busy. Even as I sit to write this post (and plan on posting it later next week), I’m watching Martin play, eating leftovers from last night and keeping an eye on E as he works through a math speed drill. This is about as peaceful as my day gets. I have laundry going, and I’m racking my brain about what to make for dinner, what to buy
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Back to the Blogosphere

Welcome to Four Grain Bread! It’s been over a year since I have been in the blogosphere. I had planned on starting back up again last summer with this whole new blog and look, but I got pregnant and lazy it just didn’t happen. So here we are, a whole year later, and a lot has changed. I just finished my first year as a homeschool-mom. I will have to post more on that later because I never dreamed, well maybe a nightmare here or there, that I would be a homeschooler. I love it, and E just finished 3rd
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Let’s Be Honest – Self-Image and Body Type

“What if in 2013 we decided to fast not from food but from body-talk? Sure—hit the gym, eat the Paleo diet, run six miles a day, wear Spanx from neck to knee. Just stop talking about it. Stop telling your friend she looks skinny—instead tell her you love her sweet spirit. Choose compliments that spur her to pursue that which lasts instead of that which certainly does not. If someone comments on your own shape, say thanks and change the subject. Banish body-talk to the same list of off-limits topics as salaries, name-dropping, and colonoscopies. Apply the discipline you use to
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I’m glad he won’t remember this…

Spring Picture Day 2013 – My favorite Boy One of the things I’ve found that really knocks me out of my comfort zone is the phrase, “I’m glad they won’t remember this…” I usually hear it in reference to parents disagreeing over child-rearing tactics while their kids are still crawling, drooling, and oblivious. But it’s one of the many things I can never utter. E will always remember. Being an 8-year-old, he is currently gathering memories and feelings to keep forever. I don’t remember specifics about being eight. I’m sure I could come up with some stories, especially if I
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