A Decade of Grace

I don’t really have words to express how I feel today, a decade after my first son, Ethan, was born. I could give a detailed birth story or I could explain how much my life was changed by his presence and how quickly I grew up, but to an extent every mom’s life changes at the birth of her first child, and she quickly realizes how immature she was before the babe arrived. Instead, I just want to express my thanks on this day when I tend to be nostalgic, weepy, and so unsure how to feel. I am thankful
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Governed by the Memoir

I love a good memoir. They’re raw, funny, sad, and real-ish. I say real-ish because memoirs are given more creative liberty than autobiographies. No one actually remembers all of those conversations, and sometimes what we remember isn’t exactly what happened. However, memoirs are based on truth, or at least the truth according to the individual writing it or according to how the individual perceived it as truth. Sounds vague, right? But the thing I love about a memoir, not only me but we as Americans love, is that the memoir is the embodiment of experience. Here in America, we worship
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The Revolving Door

Being in-transit gives everyone the grumpy face. That’s all there is to it. When I lived in Florence, SC, my hometown and a small town of about 45,000 people, we Florentinians used to talk about how Florence was a revolving door type of town, especially for people aged 18-30. People came, stayed a season, and then left again. As a long-time member of the Florence community, the revolving door made things difficult. I always took forever to get to know someone, as I am often tongue-tied and awkward with new people. By the time I would start to really love
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We Quit Sugar – Week 7

One more week until we’ve successfully completed our 8-week sugar detox! Time has moved so quickly. It seems as though we just started this experiment, and yet it’s almost as though it’s been part of our lives for a long time. Isn’t that how life works? Quick stat report: I’m down a few more pounds to below what I was when I got pregnant with Martin. I still have some to lose in order to be able to fit into all of my clothes, but I’m getting there. Exercise is super important, and I have more energy and am happier
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But I Don’t Want Cake

I’m really starting to consider what it means for my life if we quit sugar forever. Obviously we’ll come in contact with some every now and then when we’re out because it’s almost impossible not to. Tyler and I are really thinking we won’t have any around the house though, and I’ll keep cooking and exploring life without it. My biggest question and reservation right now is, “What if I don’t want cake on my birthday?” I know it sounds silly, but it’s a legitimate concern. For my whole entire life, all 28.5 years, I’ve had some type of cake
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I Don’t Want to Die When I’m 100

Do you remember ever believing everyone died when they reached 100? For a period in my life, I definitely thought everyone lived to be 100. I was reminded time and time again this week of how we often view life like children, as if we are all invincible with all the time in the world. In a funny way, I was reminded of how we think we’ll live so long when we’re young. I think most people have seen this video of the little girl who doesn’t want her brother to grow up. I avoided it on Facebook for a
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We Quit Sugar – Week 5

Only three more weeks until Tyler and I have to decide what we’re going to do with sugar in the future. Ethan told my mom this week, “I know Mommy said at some point we’ll stop craving sugar, but I don’t know if that’s going to happen.” He may want sugary things, but he rarely asks for them any more. Honestly, one of the reasons we decided to do this whole thing was because of Ethan’s obsession, all of our obsessions, with sugar. Right after I had Martin so many people brought us delicious meals and dessert, and we got
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Easy Sugar-Free Snacks and Breakfast Ideas

Two of the hardest things about going sugar-free are fixing breakfast in the morning and finding easy-to-grab snacks for when we’re on the go or when Ethan wants to grab his own snack because I’m indisposed (nursing). The morning is a struggle because I typically try and have something prepped for Tyler to eat before work, which may or may not mean it has to be either pre-cooked or prepared in a few short minutes as he often jumps out of bed at 7 and must leave by 7:30. This puts a damper on the whole “grits, eggs, and bacon ideal
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Respect Your Children – the fine line between passive parenting and giving grace

Whoa, whoa, whoa. Doesn’t the Bible say for children to obey and respect their parents? Yes, yes it does. Ephesians 6 to be exact. But Ephesians 6 also says, “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord” (ESV). For the longest time I had no clue what this meant, and while I’m sure I don’t completely understand it now, I do feel it makes more sense. When he was younger, E was an easy child. He never threw a temper tantrum, didn’t say ‘No’ to everything as a two-year-old,
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We Quit Sugar – Week 4

We are officially halfway through our sugar detox! Week 4 was such a crazy week outside of the sugar detox that eating healthy and meal planning got thrown by the wayside. We managed to stay sugar free, except for the 1/2 macaroon Tyler accidentally ate at a photo shoot (he forgot about sugar, ate it and I yelled at him to stop) and the brown sugar in the pork tenderloin rub my mother-in-law made (it was amazingly good). So all-in-all I’d say it was a success. I started drinking green smoothies. They make a great lunch and are basically a
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